"Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment...'dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love -- which is to transform us.' Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them and immediate and sustained high. They wish to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
― Bell Hooks
Last fall I did a TEDx talk that was an attempt at articulating the importance of love in our movement making, social justice, and leadership development. It also entails a great deal about being a child, sexual and domestic violence, and ends with a poem about my daughter in an attempt to articulate why I feel so deeply about love and many of the other virtues being vital to justice. The talk gets close, but just in case, I want to share the core text written by bell hooks that explore this concept of love further as it relates to justice:
This article Towards An Worldwide Culture of Love by bell hooks was vital to my understanding of love for movement building. The quote below is transformative for pursuing this work:
"Because of the awareness that love and domination cannot coexist, there is a collective call for everyone to place learning how to love on their emotional and spiritual agenda. We have witnessed the way in which movements for justice that denounce dominator culture, yet have an underlying commitment to corrupt uses of power, do not create fundamental changes in our societal structure. When radical activists have not made a core break with dominator thinking there is no union of theory and practice, and real change is not sustained. That’s why cultivating the mind of love is so crucial. When love is the ground of our being, a love ethic shapes our participation in politics." - Bell Hooks
At lunch today with a friend, I realized that a pursuit of love, courage, character, and an exploration of faith were all attempts at touching a truth that we both and imagine and sense as real (and it is real), but can't yet feel. My deepest hope is the talk might connect the dots for you and others.
Here's the video:
Here's the video: